Postnatal Depression Awareness

      When I was a new mum, there wasn’t much information about, we just made do. But it’s so important to reach out to new mothers and fathers and say hey are you doing okay? Is there anything I can do? Because as a parentless parent, it’s so hard those first few months trying to do it on your own with no support from family or firends.


Did you know that 74% of mums who were struggling were ashamed to admit they weren’t coping? Lack of information, fears of being judged and stigma is leaving mums uninformed, unsupported and feeling alone.

COPE: Centre of Perinatal Excellence which have officially launched their new website. Their sensitive, informative website (cope.org.au) provides emotional health advice throughout your parenthood journey – from preconception to pregnancy, birth and your first year with a baby.
Visit their website, and follow COPE on Facebook to be informed, inspired and support others through the many (often unspoken) challenges, that parenthood can bring.

How you can get involved:

You can get involved today by ‘liking’ COPE on Facebook to keep connected and part of their growing community and making a difference.

You can donate to COPE here

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COPE: Because no one ever tells you, how hard it can be.

poem-small

spicejac:

Just in time for my decluttering time, comes a great poem from Shawn L. Bird

Originally posted on Shawn L. Bird:

It’s not  small.

It overwhelms.

Unending paper piles

proliferate in the night.

A day’s work

becomes a week’s.

Somewhere under there

is order,

but it will take more

excavation.

.

.

.

I’ve been cleaning and re-organizing my office space.  Made some progress after a week, but it’s not there yet.  Arg.  

What task do you have that seems to expand when you’re not looking?

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Decluttering

I’m busy downsizing again, with a move coming up, it’s an ideal time to get through the cupboards and the shed and just get rid of the stuff that has not been used in the three years we’ve been here.

I’m a member of Freecycle so I’m busy posting freebies, and hopefully these items will go to families who will use them.

The hardest part is decluttering my child’s bedroom – I sneak in during the school day and see what I can find. I’ve also given away his clothes that he’s grown out of – this time to a dear friend in a different state for her little boy. The clothes are quickly grown out of and often in a really good condition.

It’s also quite a freeing thing to do, reduce the stuff that gets in the way of living the life I want to live. We surround ourselves with so much, that I think the padding gets in the way of connecting with those around us.

So for me December is the month I will reduce, recycle and re gift. Will you join me?

Ageing

My memories of my Mother – who has been gone now for 16 years, are of a hard working, tired woman, who spent her entire life devoted to her family. She was a shy women, with few friends outside of the family, by she was loyal, honest and kind.

We would fight, as I think may be normal for those Mother/Daughter relationships, and argue, and disagree – especially on issues that shook her conservative way of thinking. (Oh how many times have I pictured what she would say if she was still here and found out I married a Catholic!). Anyway, she also came from a time when women wore themselves out, caring for everyone before themselves. Her mother had done it, and her mother before her. They all died from heart attacks, their lives shortened by the poverty and lack of health care that was the England of yesteryear.

So here I am – mid forties, going, am I going down this track? No. For me, the future doesn’t hold a slow wearing down, I’m going to age as disgracefully as I can. So that’s going to be allowing my grey hairs to shine through, their evidence of some hard won battles against Ovarian masses and tumours. I’m never going to get plastic surgery because my face is the road map of my life, I have a lot of laugh lines, but you know, they’re evidence that I often don’t take life too seriously, and that I can still have a laugh with my son and partner. I want to be me, not some caricature of what an older women must look like. I want to enjoy what the future holds, without worrying or panicking about perfection.

Because that’s my lesson, life isn’t perfect, and even though I may want to control it, it’s out of my hands most of the time. I need to accept this perfection and live the life I am living now…..

Cloak of invisibility

I had presumed that the tales of becoming invisible as you age were just that, tales. But I’ve started to experience this strange and mysterious invisibility cloak myself…..and I’m only in my mid forties. So why is this so?

Is it because I’m female, and tend to blend into the background because of it? Or is it because in this age of mobile devices, those fiends who push ahead of me in queues are too busy glued to their screens then to social niceties?

I’m pretty loud – you know the type of person whose laugh can be heard throughout a building floor? So it’s not like I’m shy or retiring, but I’m finding myself exasperated by folks who use their mobile devices as shields, and so think they can get away with ignoring the fact you’re in a queue, and can push ahead. They’re also the very important folk who have to use their electronic devices through a transaction, so that they don’t have to acknowledge that there is a human being serving them.

I just wonder at what sort of relationships these people are building, when they hover their screens, and not actually attend to the folk their out and about with. I see it in Cafes, and Restaurants, two bright young folk enter, sit down, and before the waiting staff have even given them menus, out plops the electronic devices and they’re on their way to electronic nirvana. What’s the point of that? Surely if you’ve gone to the trouble of choosing to go out together, you should at least attempt to communicate with each other?

I’m one of the old school of parenting, my child does not have an electronic device to be glued to when we’re out, instead I carry around a backpack filled with textas, colouring paper, blank paper, everything you can imagine you’d need to draw some pretty amazing pictures. It works, he’s happy to draw or play a game of hangman, while we’re out, and we’re all interacting…especially hangman – the games get quite complicated and we usually end up laughing out loud…..too loudly too at times because we cause the mobile device users to sit up and glare at us….

Anyway, is it because I’ve entered the era for me to be grumpy about poor manners or just frustrated with the fact mobile lives are taking over basic human interactions? Who knows, but next time you’re waiting in a line and you think you see someone out of the corner of your eye, it might be one of us women of a certain age, cloaked in our invisibility, be polite and say hullo – we don’t bite!

Spring is springing

Spring unfolds itself, gently and tentatively here. The gardens are full of wonderful spring flowers and the air is sometimes heavy with pollen. (Never good for those of us with hayfever but still….). This time of the year is all about renewal, as we shrug off the winter months and move forward, out of our cocoons of heavy winter clothing and into the lighter clothing….

I love this time of the year, but a little part of me, alright the large menopausal part of me is going – hang on – Summer is just around the corner, how am I going to cope with hot flushes and night sweats on those blistering days?

I reflect on how the women of ages past must have coped. How hard it would have been to have been in an tent, on a hot day, having one of those “glorious” moments. I realise how lucky we are now to be able to turn a fan on, go to the fridge for some cold water, or any of the other little things I do to alleviate the symptoms….and I realise I should be grateful for having the opportunity. Without gratitude for what we have, we can so easily fall into a more selfish and self serving mindset.

poem- falling

spicejac:

It’s been a long time since I put some poetry out there – so here’s Shawn L. Bird and the Poem – Falling for you to read and reflect upon. Enjoy!

Originally posted on Shawn L. Bird:

So many questions

falling like leaves

that I can not ask.

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